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Yesterday was a great day for compliments from the family. My nearly 22 yr old son, who is notoriously unobservant, said to me, Wow, you're really getting FIT. I'm envious! Nothing like an unsolicited compliment from one who rarely notices much of anything outside of his world! lol Not to mention he weighs maybe a buck sixty at 6'2" tall! And later, when my husband came home from work and hugged me, he called me "skinny". Which is laughable, but I'll take it!
I'm doing it for me, and I know that because I stuck with this when I saw so little results for the first few months - except those things only the individual notices like a bit of definition here or there, or a little less flab or less muffin top :. But I have to admit - I love getting the compliments from others! But it also got me thinking about it last night. What happens when this (being normal weight) is MY normal? When no one says, Wow, you look great! How much weight have you lost? And so I have to examine that and make sure I'm losing it for ME and not for the compliments. I don't believe I am and it's not like I think I'll get tired of going in the closet, throwing anything on and feeling like I look okay :) And I am also focused on the health aspect of it - what food does to and for the body, and knowing my family history and how many things are diet and lifestyle related.
Okay. I think I just worked it out here - it's kind of like talking out loud to yourself :) Yep, it's for ME, it's for my health, it's for the hopes of a life of healthy longevity, the ability to do the things I want to do without fear, embarrassment, pain or inability to continue! I remember our all day horseback trail ride in southern Colorado. It was wonderful, one of the highlights of all of our vacations together. But I also remember how difficult it was to get my leg up in the stirrup and then try to swing the other leg up and over the horse! I felt like a cow and uncoordinated and nothing like giving everyone a huge butt shot, on top of it. And that evening, the four of us on the ride and the husbands of the other two women had a great steak meal together under the stars, talking, laughing, enjoying a couple bottles of wine, great food, great experience. And then the two women's talk turned to weight and to fat and I just wanted to crawl under the table and change the subject. Or hiking and hating the fact that those behind me have this view of my butt and saddlebags! Not to mention having the stamina to go on a 12 or 15 mile hike without dying. Or going to the beach and not feeling so embarrassed. Or winded hiking down the cliff to the water. These are a few of my favorite things....(musical note here)
...later...did the cardio 1 & 2, followed by Banish Fat, Boost Metabolism. About 640 calories burned, about 85 min. workout. Think I'll jump in the pool for a bit, then maybe...just maybe do some of that Crunch dvd. I like that one, it's great on muscles, but just doesn't burn many calories. I'll like doing that one more when I've reached my goal weight, I think.
...later still...I went in the pool for a bit, but the water needs treating so it's not very pretty. And too warm. Oh well. Came in and did the Crunch ReSculpt dvd. Burned about 180 calories - not much for 40 min. of working out, but it IS sculpting. I like what it seems to do for my muscles.
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1231 kcal
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Gras: 30,26g | Prot: 73,69g | Carb: 105,80g.
Colazione: organic flax pumpkin granola, greek style yogurt, Sugar Free French Vanilla Coffee Creamer, English Walnuts, Almonds, Strawberries, Blueberries. Pranzo: plum, wasa, laughing cow. Cena: unsalted butter, kraft light creamy caesar reduced fat dressing, Multi-Grain Sandwich Thins, Merlot Wine, Organic Mixed Baby Greens Salad, premier selections beef steak strips. Snacks/Altro: plum, celsius. Di più...
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2700 kcal
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Esercizio:
Lavori domestici - 2 ore, Stare seduti - 4 ore e 15 minuti, Stare in piedi - 2 ore, Esercizio di condizionamento (centro benessere) - 40 minuti, Allenamento a circuito - 1 ora, Dormire - 7 ore e 45 minuti, Riposare - 5 ore e 45 minuti, Danza (passo veloce, aerobica) - 35 minuti. Di più...
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Love your post today - it is so honest and yet so upbeat!
27 lug 10 da utente: Multiplicity1
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Thanks, sweetie. How are you doing today? I need to go check your journal and find out how your meeting went...
27 lug 10 da utente: redwinelover
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Wow D... I am so envious of your progress. You're doing great. Miss you!
27 lug 10 da utente: SturgeonQueen
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You deserve the compliments and, cf course, it's natural for you to be happy when you get them. As you approach your goal weight don't be surprised if you hear someone tell you that you look too skinny. It usually means that they are not used to seeing you so skinny but, it can derail you momentarily. Keep up the excellent job that you are doing with both diet and exercise!
27 lug 10 da utente: information
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Hi SQ! I miss you more <3 ... I know, you're slammed with life stuff. We'll catch up when you get the chance. Can't wait for pictures!------------------------------- Info, thanks again. You're becoming one of my most supportive buddies here :) I know exactly what you mean. Several years ago, just before my mom passed away suddenly, I had dieted and did a lot of physical activity (yard work, mostly! but serious, landscaping kind), lost 35 lbs and reached 119 lbs. I thought I looked awesome - I was 3 lbs higher than my lifelong goal of 116 (I think it's too light now, at least with these "he-man" muscles... hehe. My mom passed away, us siblings had to do all the stuff you do when you lose a parent (therefore, a lot of stress) and tension was high. I did get many comments - or rather, heard about them mostly second hand. "She looks like a crack addict" - I was so offended, I really thought I looked great and I know I felt great. "She looks anorexic" (no...but definitely thin enough) "She looks so old" (although a family friend mistook me for my younger sister who is nearly ten years younger than I - I'm assuming because I looked different, not that I looked that young, but still...) So yeah, I'm fully prepared for that type of comment. I think it helped derail me last time, but I also think it was mostly the stress of the whole thing, the uncertainty of what would happen with certain family members who depended on my mom for everything, and maybe some to the fact that I don't know whether that's even a weight I could maintain. Thanks once again for your insight and your input. And the compliments :) And work out tomorrow, buddy!
27 lug 10 da utente: redwinelover
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28 lug 10 da utente: information
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My first thought: all those negative comments smack of jealousy. As for those who felt they HAD to pass on the insults: [single-finger gesture here]. So breath IN the compliments (gotta love your 22yr old!) and OUT the negatives. ___________ I'm sure your friends weren't thinking of you; they were just thoughtless, and once they reviewed the conversation, wished they'd never said anything! I once made a similar observation, in a similar situation and immediately wanted the ground would open up and swallow me. And to apologise only makes it worse! ____________ You're always so insightful: this journey IS all about ME, nothing to do with others. We can blame "them" for our weight gain but ultimately it's our decision to eat, and to let "them" hurt us twice (first insult then the binge-ing). It's hard though, ignoring "them"; why do we believe the put downs, yet discount the complements
29 lug 10 da utente: Ruby_Jewell
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True, Ruby, I'm pretty sure a lot of it came from a place of jealousy. What made it worse for me were the comments came from family members. I can dump friends, but we're stuck with family! Nah...pretty sure the only problem they had about making the comments were that they came back to me. Oh well. I made a really thoughtless comment to someone before...well, I'm sure I've made MANY...and the stupid comment I made definitely would have been made worse by trying to apologize. But you know? I've felt bad about it since, and that happened nearly 20 years ago! I agree we can't blame others for "making us eat". But what I have noticed are people who may go out of their way to sabotage you. Threatened? Maybe. Probably. Insecure? Most definitely. Good point in letting them hurt us twice! Why do we hand over our power like that?! And yeah, the put downs stick, the compliments generally slide right off. Maybe it's like Dr.Phil says - It takes a thousand attaboys to knock out ONE awshit. Thanks, Ruby! You're like my ray of sunshine!
29 lug 10 da utente: redwinelover
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